art, Bipolar, bipolar disorder, creative writing, depression, Mental Health, mental illness, Poème, Poemas, Poems, Poesia, Poetry, ptsd, Rape, sexual assault, Sexual Violence, Uncategorized, Victim Blaming

The blame almost killed me

After all of the blame
I wanted to watch ruby red blood rise from my wrists.

Copyright © Electra Rose January 2016

Advertisements
Standard
Bipolar, bipolar disorder, Bisexual, creative writing, depression, Mental Health, mental illness, Poème, Poemas, Poems, Poesia, Poetry, ptsd, Rape, sexual assault, Sexual Violence, Uncategorized, Victim Blaming

I sit and reflect on the best and worst year of my life

I sit and reflect on the best and worst year of my life.
I smile because I got through it.
I smile because I found love.
I smile because love wasn’t enough.
I smile because it was an experience and makes my writing better
Even if it was the worst experience.
I smile because I am alive.

I sit here and I reflect on what could have been.
I cry because I wanted it so much.
I cry because it would have made me so happy.
I cry because I will want it forever.
I cry because the ending was so sad.

 
Copyright © Electra Rose January 2016

Standard
Rape, Sexual Violence, Victim Blaming

Don’t Tell Me Not To Go To His House

Ever since I was raped after going to a man I was dating’s house people have told me not to go to people’s houses and have told me “be careful” when I started dating. People were even telling me that I couldn’t meet a man at night just for a drink. I find this absolutely ridiculous and frankly I feel victim blamed when people say things like this as it makes me feel like they are saying that my decisions caused me to be raped when in fact it was another person who happened to be a man’s actions that caused me to be raped. I think it isn’t helpful telling people these things as realistically they could be raped by anyone and in any situation and it’s a matter of chance. 

Standard
Feminism, Victim Blaming

How To Really Not Get Raped

The ridiculous advice about how not to get raped taught and drilled into the minds of every female in Western society really pisses me off.

Not only does it help perpetrate victim blaming later down the road if someone were one of the majority who was raped and didn’t follow all of the many rules, but it is genuinely ridiculous as according to Rape Crisis England only 10% of rapes are committed by strangers.

Here is my advice on how not to get raped/assaulted given that 90% of rapes are committed by people known to the victim:

1. Do not trust any man even your uncles, grandfather, father, family friends etc. because any man is a threat.

2. Do not ever let a man drive you or walk you home as he could rape of assault you.

3. Do not leave the house because you could get raped in many different situations if you leave the house.

4. Do not make friends with any men.

5. Attend all girl schools and women colleges to avoid making contact with men.

6. Do not ever have a boyfriend or sexual relations with any man, even casual because he could assault or rape you.

7. Avoid using public transport as you could be raped or assaulted.

8. Avoid using taxis as you could be raped or assaulted.

9. Never go into a room alone with a man as you could be raped or assaulted.

10. Avoid going to parties or social events where men will be present as you could be raped or sexually assaulted.

11. Avoid going to nightclubs as you could be raped or sexually assaulted.

12. Follow all of these guidelines 100% of the time and you should be able to avoid 90% of rapes.

I hope this satirical post has helped show how ridiculous the rules that are drilled into women’s heads about how not being raped are and how if they really wanted to avoid rape in 90% of cases they would have to live their lives completely avoiding ALL men and never trusting any of them.

The bottom line is that the only way we will reduce rape and sexual violence or even stop it is by educating men and boys about consent and healthy sexual relationships.

There are so many different situations in which you could be raped and almost all of these situations do not involve strangers in bushes.

What I hope I managed to get across is that if one wanted to ensure that they avoided rape and reduce the chances of being raped they would have to restrict all contact with men which is frankly ridiculous. Also even this might not help them avoid rape if family members or family friends were involved.

I feel very safe walking home alone at night knowing that is highly unlikely I will be dragged into a bush by a man with a knife.

Standard
Feminism, Sexual Violence, Victim Blaming

Victim Blaming By The UK Government

http://www.change.org/petitions/jeremy-hunt-nhs-home-office-remove-all-copies-of-this-poster-and-stop-victim-blaming?recruiter=47042057&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=share_twitter_mobile

Please sign and share this! The UK government have put up a poster implying that women who are drunk when they are raped/assaulted are to blame. This is unacceptable; the victim is never to blame!

I may have been drunk when I was sexually assaulted on multiple occasions but it was never my fault. It is attitudes like this that made me think there would be no point in me ever telling the police because I would be blamed for being drunk. If someone stabs you unprovoked when you are drunk is that your fault?

Standard